HOW TO MOVE ON AFTER AN AFFAIR Part 1

An age-old universal question about Love is ‘How do you move on after your lover leaves you for another guy or woman?

Like in any trial, the very first thing you should do is pray. Pray hard for spiritual guidance on how you can forget your former partner as fast as you can. Ask the Lord to lead you to where He wants you to go, to what He wants you to do, or to whom He wants you to meet. If you pray hard enough He will guide you.

As you turn to prayer return everything, and I mean everything, that your former sweetheart had given you, no matter how insignificant it may be. If your ex won’t accept it, burn it, all of it. Then, STOP GOING TO, or even passing by, all the places the two of you used to frequent. If you have to, ask around for new routes to your destinations if these places are along the way.

If you hear your theme song as sweethearts or songs you both like, switch stations or better yet, turn off the radio or the TV. It’s a lot, lot faster to forget an ex if there’s absolutely nothing to remind you of him or her.

After that comes the fun part. I say fun because the following will also be a big help for you to forget while boosting your physical, mental and believe it or not, spiritual stamina. For the physical, enroll in a gym even if you’re not overweight. If you can’t afford it, start jogging or walking several kilometers daily and exercising at home. Push yourself to the limit, until you feel too tired to even think about anything or anybody.

You grow stronger, and get to think of your ex less and less. Now, with a strong body comes a strong mind. You’ll be able to think faster, and sharper. Use this to your advantage at the office. Drown yourself in work. Go on overtime as often as your boss would allow you to or take home the tasks which you didn’t finish after your shift.

If there are seminars or out-of-town trips, be the first to volunteer or go without hesitation if you’re chosen, especially if it could increase your chances for a promotion or pay raise.

You will be too busy to think about him or her, but will LEARN MORE, and eventually EARN MORE. Not a bad alternative, right?

Last, but definitely not the least, start going to HOUSES OF CHARITY -- homes for the aged or the disabled, street kids and unwed mothers; orphanages and even charity wards of hospitals. A visit to these places will make you realize that despite the loneliness you feel, there are a lot of people who are in a far worse condition than yours. And yet, life goes on for them. Believe me, you yourself will ask at that point: If they can move on, WHY CAN’T I? 30