HOW TO MOVE ON AFTER AN AFFAIR - PART 2

Here are some more tips on how to move on after an affair:

Be active in your parish church. Join church organizations and activities like charity work.

This way, you get closer to God while you help others in your own little way. Similarly, join other socio-civic organizations if you get the opportunity to like the Rotary Club.

Start your own business even if you don’t need the money, or the potential income is loose change compared to what you make in the office.

Discover or develop your other talents like singing or dancing. Do this whenever you start getting depressed over the past, or are simply bored with nothing else to do. And who knows, your other talents might open new doors for you with regular practice.

Start playing your favorite sport regularly, and push yourself to the limit. Read and learn more about it to enhance your skill. Go out with friends more often than before, BUT NOT to the point of endangering your health.

Welcome new acquaintances, especially admirers, for what they are, and not based on the pain you’re suffering or the skepticism that it had triggered in your mind. New faces, new friends and renewed interest in people will make it a lot easier for you to forget.

Make up for lost time with the family when you and your ex were still together. Join them more often in outings or bonding moments. Go all out in helping solve family problems.

If you have the budget, go to places you’ve never been to, locally or abroad. New surroundings to explore and new things to learn are also very good medicines against loneliness. And as I’ve written in an earlier blog, PRAY. Pray hard for spiritual strength and guidance. Believe me, God WILL LISTEN! 30

HOW TO MOVE ON AFTER AN AFFAIR Part 1

An age-old universal question about Love is ‘How do you move on after your lover leaves you for another guy or woman?

Like in any trial, the very first thing you should do is pray. Pray hard for spiritual guidance on how you can forget your former partner as fast as you can. Ask the Lord to lead you to where He wants you to go, to what He wants you to do, or to whom He wants you to meet. If you pray hard enough He will guide you.

As you turn to prayer return everything, and I mean everything, that your former sweetheart had given you, no matter how insignificant it may be. If your ex won’t accept it, burn it, all of it. Then, STOP GOING TO, or even passing by, all the places the two of you used to frequent. If you have to, ask around for new routes to your destinations if these places are along the way.

If you hear your theme song as sweethearts or songs you both like, switch stations or better yet, turn off the radio or the TV. It’s a lot, lot faster to forget an ex if there’s absolutely nothing to remind you of him or her.

After that comes the fun part. I say fun because the following will also be a big help for you to forget while boosting your physical, mental and believe it or not, spiritual stamina. For the physical, enroll in a gym even if you’re not overweight. If you can’t afford it, start jogging or walking several kilometers daily and exercising at home. Push yourself to the limit, until you feel too tired to even think about anything or anybody.

You grow stronger, and get to think of your ex less and less. Now, with a strong body comes a strong mind. You’ll be able to think faster, and sharper. Use this to your advantage at the office. Drown yourself in work. Go on overtime as often as your boss would allow you to or take home the tasks which you didn’t finish after your shift.

If there are seminars or out-of-town trips, be the first to volunteer or go without hesitation if you’re chosen, especially if it could increase your chances for a promotion or pay raise.

You will be too busy to think about him or her, but will LEARN MORE, and eventually EARN MORE. Not a bad alternative, right?

Last, but definitely not the least, start going to HOUSES OF CHARITY -- homes for the aged or the disabled, street kids and unwed mothers; orphanages and even charity wards of hospitals. A visit to these places will make you realize that despite the loneliness you feel, there are a lot of people who are in a far worse condition than yours. And yet, life goes on for them. Believe me, you yourself will ask at that point: If they can move on, WHY CAN’T I? 30

11 SIGNS YOUR BOYFRIEND REALLY LOVES YOU

Hey girls, here are 11 signs that your boyfriend really loves you. Guys, you can pass this on to your daughters, sisters, relatives and friends.

He continues to be as caring as the day he started courting you.

If he wants a date but you have to finish something for the office, school or the family, he doesn’t insist and will instead volunteer to help in any way he can, even if the two of you have not gone out for quite a while already.

Whenever you have a problem, at home or at the office, HE DOESN’T DISAPPEAR and is with you ALL THE WAY until it is solved.

He is as worried as you are if there is a sick or problematic member of your family. Not just verbally but through action, like accompanying you and the sick to the doctor or helping you think of, and find, solutions, to the problem.

Unless he’ll be tied down to work or other circumstances beyond his control, he sees to it that he brings you home nightly, especially if the weather’s terrible or you’ll finish late at school or at work.

He is as sweet as ever with you.

He still opens doors for you, pulls your chair whenever you dine out, goes out of the car or the cab first and takes your hand as you follow and patiently waits for you and doesn’t eat ahead if you arrive late.

He calls or gets in touch with you as often as usual if he's on an out-of-town assignment.

He speaks his mind out when he thinks you’re wrong, not just about your relationship but with anything else. This means he really loves you because he wants you to be a better person.

He never humiliates you in front of anybody whenever you’re at fault. Most of all, as an old song goes, he loves you for what you are, not for what he wants or hopes you to be. 30