HOW TO HANDLE AN INVITATION FROM YOUR EX!

A reader who asked to be called only as Ana of Quezon City is being invited for dinner by his ex-boyfriend, for old time’s sake. They had parted as friends but she already has a new boyfriend.

She’s asking if it’s alright for her to accept the invitation.

My advice: Inform your boyfriend about it first. If he won’t allow you, and you really love him, then you have no other choice but to obey. He has all the right to refuse.

If your boyfriend agrees, but only on the condition that he or somebody you both know will tag along, it  should not be a problem for you.

It will be a three-way advantage, all in your favor.

First, you prove to your boyfriend that you truly love him and will never betray his trust. Second, it will be a good test if your ex is really just out to renew or strengthen your friendship, or is planning something bad against you.

Third, you shield yourself against any possible temptation or infidelity to your boyfriend.

If your ex-boyfriend refuses your having a companion and insists that you come alone, TURN DOWN his invitation ON THE SPOT.

He’s up to something EVIL, believe me.

Now, if you’ll be the one who’ll insist on going, despite your boyfriend’s refusal, then you’re THE ONE WHO’S being UNFAITHFUL.

That means you really don’t love your boyfriend. Why? Your ex is MORE IMPORTANT TO YOU THAN HIM AND HIS FEELINGS. You should have the civility to stop fooling him and END THE RELATIONSHIP right there and then.

And you’ll be the luckiest girl on Earth if your boyfriend WON’T DO IT FIRST.

In or out of marriage, a relationship is a commitment. It should always be a TOTAL COMMITMENT, and not conditional or depending on your mood.

If you’re not for commitment, and are just looking for a fuck buddy or companionship, then tell it to the guy right from the start.  But keep this in mind, girls: Guys will always go for a girl who believes in commitment. And I mean always, as in now and forever.

True happiness is not just sex and good time, ladies. Think about it, before it’s too late. 30