HOW TO CATCH A CHEATING LOVER!

A friend of mine has just asked me: How do you catch a cheating partner?

I immediately cautioned her that before you conclude that he’s cheating on you, be 1001 percent sure that you have been noticing solid signs of dishonesty (I have written an earlier blog on signs of cheating).

If you have been, then there’s only one thing to do -- DO THE UNEXPECTED!

Try these tips, people! These apply to both boys and girls!

First is the common method, SECRETLY FOLLOW your partner when you’re not supposed to see each other.

Show up at your partner’s place when he or she would least expect it, like early morning or midnight and beyond. If you can’t, call or keep on texting until you get a reply.

If your partner isn’t home, and you don’t have an idea of his or her possible whereabouts DISSECT, as in SCRUTINIZE, every word of whatever alibi he or she will give you.

Do the same thing at your partner’s job, or place of business. Beg off early from work if you have to. Once you’re there, be on the lookout for your partner’s unusual sweetness towards anybody or shocked and dagger-sharp looks by somebody!

If your partner reacts angrily, then he or she is into something NAUGHTY!

When you’re together, ask suddenly for your partner’s mobile phone and scan the text message or phone calls. If your partner’s not hiding anything, then there shouldn’t be any problem in handing over the phone to you.

If your partner refuses, then he or she is hiding something. Remember, you only hide something if it’s ILLEGAL OR WRONG!

And as I’ve written before, if you find a second phone in your partner which you were never even told about, YOU’RE IN BIG TROUBLE, believe me!

If you notice something new in your partner – clothes, accessories, perfume, gadgets -- ask him or her where it came from. DON’T ACCUSE at once. But verify the details for yourself.

If it’s from a store, go there and see for yourself. If it’s a gift from somebody, ask for the person’s name and the reason. If you know the person, double-check it yourself.

If you don’t, ask your partner to introduce you to that person so that you can express your appreciation too. If your partner reacts angrily, he or she is LYING!

There are more tricks, on a case-to-case basis. Let me just emphasize that LYING, in any form, is CHEATING!

Keep that in mind! 30